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Travelling with Children
Why two eyes are not enough to drive in India
On Indian roads you can see:
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sacred cows taking a nap on the highway divider,
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motorcycles making U-turns on the highway,
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cars driving the wrong way,
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people dashing across six highway lanes with fast driving cars and getting to the other side without a scratch,
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camel-pulled carts also join the highway traffic from time to time,
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backs of trucks with signs that say, “Horn Please” as hooting tends to be used as substitution for indicators.
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Even dogs and goats are part of the highway traffic.
Why just do it is a good idea when travelling on a budget
You are more likely to travel:
- when you don’t know that most roads are dust roads suitable only for 4×4 cars and you are driving a small passenger car,
- when you are not aware that the distances you will be covering are huge and there will be no one in sight,
- when you don’t know that if something happens to your car, the nearest service station is hundreds of kilometres away,
- when you don’t know that forgetting to buy fuel can be a matter of life and death when you get stranded in the middle of a desert,
- when you don’t know that some of the roads are like driving through a nature reserve full of animals that can cross your path and suddenly end your journey,
- when you have spent so much time in an urban area or developed country that you forget there are some places where your navigation system and cellphone have no signal and your only option is to walk in search of the highest mountain hoping to find a network,
- when you forget that bottled water can be a luxury in some places and you need to keep enough of it in the trunk (boot) in case of unexpected events.
Never trust a navigation device
I won’t even mention the fact that in one of the cities where we had to find the lodge where we had reserved a room for the night, there were two streets with the same name and our clever navigation system decided to take us to the one which was in a very high-density suburb, in the worst part of the city. The street was dark and the houses looked like they had seen better days. It was a scary moment. I grew up in a ghetto myself, but that place sent the shivers down my spine. That’s the last time I trusted a navigation system again.
At one point we found ourselves in a national park with no map. At the beginning, I felt safe, because I had brought my favourite navigation system that had previously taken me everywhere without a hiccup. I even had a backup navigation system, just in case. That didn’t help. We got lost and there was no network. To make it worse, the roads were so bad I felt like I was driving on a sandy beach. The fact that I was driving an off-road vehicle did not make much difference. A few times we almost got stuck in the sand. After a while, we lost all sense of direction. For a moment I thought we were not going to find our way out of the park. Fortunately, we managed to find the exit, but more than two hours later than we had planned.
Just when you think you are experienced, you have seen it all, you suddenly realise that you still have a lot to learn. But it’s all part of the fun of travelling on a budget where the success of everything part of the journey depends on you.
Just do it!
Men like taking risks then wonder why they die earlier than women
Men like taking risks. That’s a fact. They take risks when learning, playing, sitting and even sleeping. In fact, they do it all the time.
I am guilty of a few sins myself. No wonder we die early, right? I guess you have heard of men sitting in the bathtub with laptops connected to electricity, or men sitting on top of moving trains, buses, cars, or falling asleep behind the wheel, etc.? Women don’t do that. At least, it’s on rare occasions that you hear of women taking such risks. They know better and God rewards them with a longer life, which is fair. I guess they deserve the long life since they take good care of it.
When travelling with children, taking risks is one thing you want to avoid. Especially when you are far from home. If you do want to risk your life, do it closer to home and spare the family the trouble of having to bring you home on a stretcher. That’s why I advise men to listen to their wives when travelling with the whole family. Here is a real life story just to make the point clear. I promise it won’t be gruesome.
Example of how men like taking risks
One day while on holiday in Zimbabwe, we decided to go to a small national park just outside the capital city, Harare. As we were getting close to the park, my wife said we didn’t have enough petrol and we should fill up before we drove in. I should have listened, but I didn’t. I regret. Being the risk-taking man that I am, I said don’t worry we have enough petrol, but I was wrong. If only I had listened. Anyway, after an hour or two of driving in the park, I had to accept that we didn’t have enough fuel. So I told my wife that I think we should go and buy some petrol and then come back to the park, which she agreed to. But not without some shouting and the normal “I told you so” that I have grown used to. I mentioned that I have committed a few sins myself, didn’t I?
Anyway, we drove out of the national park and a kilometre or so later, the car came to a sudden stop. We had run out of fuel. I don’t even want you to imagine the rage that my wife went through. That would be too painful. Take it from me, it wasn’t a pleasant scene. And all because I decided to take an unnecessary risk. What would have happened if we had filled up before driving into the park? Completely nothing. Probably the whole family would have enjoyed the day and have something pleasant to remember.
The struggle to find a container
With the situation as it was, I had to leave the whole family in the car, walk to the nearest main road, hitchhike to the nearest fuel station, spend lots of time looking for a container. It’s Africa. Things like containers don’t lie around waiting for people like me to come along. Everything is reused. You can’t even buy some things even if you wanted to. After some searching, bargaining and begging I managed to buy some fuel and then had to retrace my steps back to the car where the whole family was waiting getting more and more angry as time passed. The famous African sun was shining, but in moments like this when you have no air-conditioning, you can be forgiven for not noticing its beauty. All in all, it took me 3 hours to arrange and bring the fuel back. All because I had decided to take an unnecessary risk. I won’t even mention the fact that the car completely broke down later when we were on our way home and we had to be towed or the fact that we didn’t manage to go back to the park as we had planned to. It was a terrible day all round.
As they say, every cloud has a silver lining. I learnt my lesson. I will not take unnecessary risks when travelling with my family. Not even the smallest ones.
I also learnt that women are sometimes right.